Thursday, October 7, 2010

Life As A Safe Family

We are really doin' it...finally...we have added our first Safe Family child to the brood! And God has given us a little gift in the process. We are hosting Emery, an absolutely striking boy of 2 years old. Emery's mom is very young. She was a victim of the child welfare system in our country and was never adopted...never shown unconditional love. And, she became pregnant.

She chose life.

That life is a little boy with an infectious laugh and a smile that lights up a room.

And mom just needs some help now. She knows she is not in a healthy situation. She has been homeless for a while. No job. Nothing.

But, she heard about Safe Families and decided to trust them, and me. She was nervous about the distance and she immediately wanted to set up visits. Today, we made our first visit. Mom is so shy and quiet, she couldn't look me in the eye. That made me so sad. I can't imagine the shame she feels. She couldn't take care of her own son. She had to ask a stranger for help. I wanted to hug her tell her how wonderful her son is...that is is obvious she has been a good mom. But, how can we blame her for not knowing how to be a GREAT mom?

She never had one! She never watched a mom and learned how to be a mom by quietly watching every move her mom made. When I think if how I became a mom, the process began decades ago as I watched my mom move around the house, listened to her conversations, and felt safe and cared for. This mom didn't have that - and then we expect her to know how to be one?

That is what this ministry is all about! My prayer is that she begins to trust me and that someday I can see her and give her a big hug and tell her how great of a mom she is.


Bear Creek Mama said...

Radical Love sister! What amazing Christ-like compassion is expressed in your words and your actions. You are a HUGE inspiration to me! Thank you for sharing your life.

Jamie said...


~Alicia said...
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~Alicia said...

Truly amazing and beautiful!